குட்டீஸ்களின் சுட்டிப் பேச்சு!!

நேத்திக்கு என் கணவரின் கஸின் சிஸ்டரோட பொண்ணுக்கு நிச்சயதார்த்தம்!! அங்கே நடந்த சில சுவாரஸியமான பேச்சுக்கள்!!

குட்டிப் பெண் அனுவிற்கு ஒரே சந்தோஷம், தன் அக்காவிற்கு நிச்சயதார்த்தம் என்று!! அக்காவிடம் போய், “கல்யாணம் எப்போ?” என்று கேட்க, அவள் பதிலுக்கு, “ஜூலை 2011” என்று சொல்ல, குழந்தை உடனே, “அதுக்கு எதுக்கு இப்பவே நிச்சயதார்த்தம் பண்ணனும், ஜூன் 2011ல பண்ணினா போறாதா!” என்று பெரிய மனுஷி போல கேட்க, அங்கே ஒரே சிரிப்பு தான்!!

நிச்சயதார்த்தம் மேடையில் சீர்வரிசை வைத்திருந்தோம்.  நிறைய வகைகளில் பழங்கள், உலர்ந்த திராட்சை, முந்திரி, பாதாம், பிஸ்தா, வண்ண வண்ண சாக்லேட் என்று மேடையில் காலி இடமே இல்லை என்னும் வண்ணம் அடுக்கப் பட்டிருந்தது.  கார்த்திக் கண்ணில், “பெராரே ரோஷே” என்னும் வெளிநாட்டுச் சாக்லேட் பட்டுவிட்டது. உடனே என்னிடம் வந்து, “அம்மா, நான் அதில் ஒண்ணே ஒண்ணு எடுத்துக்கட்டுமா? என்று கெஞ்சியது. நான் அவனிடம், “டேய், இந்த சீர் வரிசையெல்லாம் நாம் மாப்பிள்ளைக்காக வைத்ததுடா!, நாமளே எடுத்துக்க இல்ல” என்றேன். உடனே அவன், “நான் மாப்பிள்ளையா ஆயிட்டேன்னா, எனக்கும் இதெல்லாம் வைப்பாங்களா?” என்கிறான்!!!

இப்பவே கண்ண கட்டுதே!! என் இனிய மருமகளே! மிஞ்சிப் போனா, அவ இப்போ தான் பிறந்து நடை பழகிக் கொண்டிருக்கிறாளோ, அல்லது ஏதோவொரு ஸ்கூலில் ப்ரீ-கேஜி அல்லது எல்-கேஜி படிக்கிறாளோ!!” நீ வரும் நாளை, நானும் என் மகனும் மிக ஆவலுடன் எதிர்பார்க்கிறோம்!!

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“ஏ சி ஹால் இருந்தா தான் நான் கல்யாணம் பண்ணிப்பேன்!!” – கார்த்திக்

போன வாரம், என் கணவரின் நண்பர் குஹன் என்பவரின் மகனுக்கு உபநயனம் இருந்தது.  என் குழந்தைகள் இருவரும், காலை வேளைகளில் கிரிக்கெட் க்ளாஸ் செல்வதினால், என் கணவர், உபநயன நாளின் முன் தினம் இரவே, சென்று, அச்சிறுவனை வாழ்த்திவிட்டு வரலாம் என்றார். ஜி.என். செட்டி சாலையில் உள்ள ஒரு திருமண மண்டபத்தில் விழா நடக்கவிருந்தது.  நாங்கள் அங்கு சென்று, சிறிது நேரம்  O.S. சுந்தர் அவர்களின் பஜன்ஸ் கேட்டோம்.  பின்பு கிளம்பி வருகையில், கார்த்திக் என்னிடம் மெதுவாக, “அம்மா! என் திருமணத்தை நீங்கள் எங்கு நடத்துவீர்கள்?” என்றான்.  என்னடா இது, பிள்ளைக்கு இன்னும் முளைச்சு மூணு இலை விடலை, அதுக்குள்ள கல்யாண ஆசையா?? என்று விழித்துக் கொண்டே, அவனிடம், “ஏண்டா, இப்போ அதைப் பத்தி கேக்கற?” என்றேன். உடனே அவன், “இல்ல, திடீர்னு நாம போன சில கல்யாணங்களை யோசிச்சுப் பார்த்தேன். கொஞ்ச நாள் முன்னாடி, ஒரு நிச்யதார்த்தத்திற்குப் போனோமே, யப்பா, மறக்கவே முடியாது, அங்கு நான் எவ்வளோ கஷ்டப் பட்டேன்” என்று. அதான், இப்பவே, உங்கிட்ட சொல்லிட்டா, நீ clearaa பார்க்கும் போதே, நல்ல “ஏசி ஹால்” பார்த்துட்டா, எனக்கு அந்த கவலை இருக்காது. என்றான். அவன் கவலையை நினைத்து கவலைப் படுவதா! அல்லது, அவனைப் பற்றி கவலைப் படுவதா!! என்று ஒரே குழப்பம்!!

We haven’t been apart for such a long time dear!! Waiting for you to come

It has been really, really a long time, since Chandar(officially Vythi, my better half) and me have been apart.  It was way back in January, when he had gone to Bangalore,  immediately after we all, as a family had been to Bangalore to attend my cousin Suresh’s wedding.  After that, we had our own sweet time together, ((although, in between we might have had a few rough times, that lasted a few moments only) for the whole of February.  Then, it was March, and we had our wedding day, which brought us even more memories of our initial meetings, and the immediate days/months after wedding.  We relived those moments.  Suddenly, two days before our wedding day, Vythi told me that he might need to go to Hosur, on an official visit, and he is trying to postpone it, so that he will be there with us, on Friday, 5th March 2010, our wedding anniversary, and then push off to Hosur on Sunday.  As planned, he left to Bangalore, on Sunday, stating that it might be minimum Wednesday, max. Friday for him to return.

I was very much hopeful that, Vythi would make to Chennai by today morning, as he will definitely finish his work, to come back to home, sweet home!! But, alas, to my utter disappointment, he just called a few minutes back, and told that he can come only on Friday morning.

It is really tough to be without somebody, whom you get used to being with, even it is for a day or night. Longing to have you, Vythi,  at Chennai, near me…Please come soon.

ஏழு வயது குழந்தையின் (அ)நியாயமான கேள்வி – “எனக்கு எப்போ மா கல்யாண நாள் வரும்?”

என் வலைப்பதிவைத் தொடர்ந்து படித்து வருபவர்களுக்குத் தெரியும், என் இளைய மகன் கார்த்திக் எவ்வளவு துறுதுறு என்று… இன்று எங்கள் திருமண நாள். கல்யாணமாகி 11 வருடங்கள் உருண்டோடிவிட்டன. இருவருமே நிறைய மாறியுள்ளோம்.  தலைப்பு திசை மாறுவதற்கு முன்னால், நான் மீண்டும் ஏன் இந்த வலைப் பதிவைப் பதிக்கிறேன் என்று காணலாம்.

நேற்று இரவு, படுக்கப் போகுமுன், என் கணவரை திருமண நாளிற்காக வாழ்த்திவிட்டு, அவரிடம் ஒரு வாழ்த்து அட்டையும், பெரிய பார்சல் ஒன்றும் கொடுத்தேன்.  அவருக்கோ அதனுள் என்ன இருக்கும் என்றறிய ஒரே ஆவல்.  நான் அதனை வாங்கச் சென்ற போது, குழந்தைகள் இருவரும் என்னுடன் வந்தனர் என்றாலும், கார்த்திக் அங்கே ஒரு “Play Station Video Game” பார்த்தவுடன், எங்களை மறந்து, ஏன் தன்னையே மறந்து, விளையாடிக் கொண்டிருந்தான்.  விக்னேஷ்க்குத் தெரியும், அது ஒரு ஏசர் (Acer Netbook) மடிக் கணினி. இரவு தன் அப்பா அந்த பரிசுப் பார்சலைத் திறக்கும் வரை ஒரே அமர்க்களம். இறுதியில், அது ஒரு கணிப் பொறி என்று கண்டவுடன், என்னிடம், “எனக்கும் கல்யாணமானா என் மனைவி இதெல்லாம் பரிசாகத் தருவாளா? என்றான்.  அப்போதைக்கு அழுகையை நிறுத்த வழி என்று எண்ணி, “தருவாள்!!” என்றேன்.  உடனே, எதிர்பாராத விதமாய் அவன், “எனக்கு எப்போ “Wedding Day” என்று கேட்கிறான்???

என்ன பதில் கூற??????????

Unforgettable February’s of my life so far

When I look back, I think I have a few Feb’s which remain fresh in my mind….

  • Feb 1997 – No one among our friends gang would have believed that Srivi would get married so early.  B’coz, she was the most vibrant among us, and always wants to do the impossible sort of.. Her parents had two lovely daughters, and wanted them to excel in whichever field they wanted to.  Both sisters were doing computer courses, and Srivi used to tell us that “I want to see the millennium and only then get married” etc. But, her charming prince came on Jan 26th 1997, and this lady fell flat and got married within a fornight, and flew to America.
  • Feb 1999 – It was my turn, now as I got engaged to Vythi, in Nov. ’98, and our wedding was fixed for March 1999.  It was then that I realized that days are longer, and nights even worser, that I just wanted the calendar to run and stand at March 5th 1999.  We just had a month to go, before we lost our bachelor life, and become life-partners.  That year, Feb. 14th was my first Valentine’s Day, with Vythi, and we enjoyed each other’s company very much that day.  Vythi gifted me a cute little pair of earrings. There was lots of shopping going on, meeting friends and relatives to invite them for wedding and so on.
  • Feb 2000 – Viji got married on Feb.4th in the millennium year. Vignesh was hardly 2 months old, but that couldn’t prevent me from enjoying her wedding.  Not only Viji and Ram, we all were waiting for their wedding to happen, and we had a wonderful time.  My cousin, Kamakshi got engaged to Easwar at Trichy in Feb. 2000.  VIgnesh was too small to travel, but I insisted Vythi that I had to be there for her engagement somehow and Vythi took his car, Maruti 800, and we three went to Trichy to attend the function.  It was also a memorable February for my brother Raman, as he and Bhavani got engaged on Feb 14th 2000.

Then, many February’s passed by.  I am not able to remember any other milestone that I could write now. Again, to start with

  • Feb 2006 We decided Vignesh was ready for his Upanayanam and performed his Upanayanam on Feb 23rd.  My brother and his family had also come down from America for that.  It was a double treat as Varun, my brother’s son, was a year old and we did his Abdhapoorthi(First b’day celebration) on Feb 9th 2006.
  • Feb 2007 Viji and Ram had a double treat with the birth of their duo Rakshith and Rakshana, who are their double trouble right now.  But time will fly, and the two will grow into two beautiful souls, making their parents proud about their kids and their achievements.
  • Feb 2009 My cousin, Ramya, who is a real darling and pet in my mom’s side, got married on Feb 8th 2009.  We all had waited for that wonderful day, when she became officially Sriram’s wife.  Her wedding was filled with fun and happiness, and her dad, Kannan, took every pains to make it a grand success.  As we did for Vignesh, we planned for Karthik’s Upanayanam in the tamil month of Maasi, and thought it would fall in Feb 2009, but, it went a little further, and Karthik’s Upanayanam happened on the International Women’s day, March 8th.
  • Feb 2010 What else could be the reason for happiness, than the reunion of friends after a long time.  It has been 9 full years, since Srivi, came to India.  The last ocassion that she was here was in Jan 2001, for her sweet sister’s wedding.  That year, I had a small kid in Vignesh, and Viji too was newly married, and added to that Srivi was shuttling between Ambattur, her in-laws place and Chromepet, her parents’ place.  We couldn’t spend much time among ourselves.  But, this New Year 2010, when she called us to say that she is landing in India on Jan 31st, and will be here for another three weeks, our happiness had no bounds at  all.  The whole three weeks was a pleasure for all our friends.  We had our sweet time, and spent excellent days together, thanks to our respective husbands and kids.  Yesterday, being her last day in India, I didn’t want to miss the opportunity to meet her, and took Vignesh and Karthik along with me to her parents’ place at Chromepet.

Bon Voyage Srivi, Ravi, Anjali and Aakash.  We would love to see you all at the earliest possible moment…..

Vignesh turned TEN today!!!

Hey, It has been 10 wonderful years, since my older son, Vignesh, came into our life. I loved his birthdate, Dec. 7, as it has been celebrated as Flag Day. Right since my childhood, when there used to be a mention of the soldiers who worked for our country, during our morning general assembly, I used to remember the great deeds of these soldiers on Dec. 7th every year thereafter.

Now, a short recap of what happened 10 years back, on the day Vignesh was  born:

I got married to Vythi, on March 5th, 1999.  We were expecting our first kid in the first week of December 1999.  Throughout my pregnancy, I had lots of complications, right from the date, the pregnancy got confirmed, till the date of delivery.  I remember,  waiting hours together, every fornight or so, in front of my gynaec’s examination room, at St. Isabel Hospital, Mylapore, Chennai.  At last, on Dec.3rd, which was supposed to be my expected date of delivery, I got admitted into the hospital.

My doctor, checked me thoroughly, and said, we can wait for another couple of days, and look for possibilities of a natural delivery.  My husband was more anxious than me to see the kid.  And, to add to it, he is of the nature, that he gets worked up for even very small things.  I am basically a very optimistic, and an active lady.  I hated the scene of lying down in the hospital bed, and hence I avoided lying down on that bed.  Vythi who is very much workaholic was relieved to be out of his work related situation, and enjoyed himself in that bed.  Most of the time, when the nurses came to check my vital parameters, used to laugh at finding him in the bed, instead of me..

On Dec.6th morning, the doctor decided to induce pain, and she said, she will put me in the process of administering Oxytocin.  She said, I would soon go into labour.  I had heard several stories on pain during labour, and had the firsthand experience of seeing ladies on the labour table, who were shouting with pain.  But, during the entire pregnancy, I had built up my mind to be calm and smile, when my baby comes into this wonderful world, instead of crying with pain.  The nurses asked me to keep walking, so that I get into labour pain soon.  I experienced mild contractions, but I kept a smiling face.  This continued, till the next day evening…..Poor Vythi, was irritated by that sight of me simply walking up and down, that too with a wide grin on my face.  He went to the doctor, many times, and said, “You are saying that the cervix has dilated 25%, 40%, 45% etc., but still I don’t see anything concrete that is happening”.   My mother was unwell, and she was lying down.  My dad and my mother-in-law were mere spectators.  On 7th evening, the doctor, found that my placenta was very strong, and she artificially ruptured the placenta, so that the progress towards childbirth will be faster.  Soon after that, the pains were becoming severe, and the doctor, asked Vythi, who had been with me for the entire 3 days at hospital to attend to his work for a few hours, and the birth would probably be at around 11p.m. or later.  So, Vythi left half-heartedly, to his office.  Things were going smoothly, and the doctor too, left for her home, after giving necessary instructions, to the duty doctor and the nurses.  At around 9 p.m., the nurses found that the heartbeat of the baby was coming down, and immediately informed my doctor.  She came within 20 minutes, checked me, and said, the umbilical cord, has tied around the neck of the baby, and hence myself pushing the baby had started to choke the baby slightly and that was the reason, for the decrease in its heartbeat.  She said, it would be safe to proceed to a caesarean, and I immediately agreed.  My mother-in-law was hesitant, as my husband was also not there at that moment. But the doctor, said we have to proceed to the operation theatre and hence I, who was fully conscious had to sign in the Patient agreement document, before proceeding to the theatre.  My husband was also informed of the urgency of the situation.  Added to the complications, all the major operations theatres in the hospital were occupied, with pre-planned surgeries.  My doctor, took me to a Mini-OT which was free at 9:35 p.m., and at 9:43 p.m., Vignesh came into this world, thanks to Dr. Usha Krishnakumar and her team members.

Today, after 10 wonderful years of parenting my two kids, I am extremely thankful to the Almighty, for blessing me with such a wonderful family – a loving husband, and two sweet kids.

Happy Birthday Vignesh!!!

How I met my Man?

It has been ten+ wonderful years, since I first met Vythi.  I was undergoing a training at the Planning Commission, New Delhi, as a Class I Officer, after clearing the Indian Statistical Services examination, (similar to the IAS exams) during the year 1998.  During the Navarathri holidays, I thought I will take my much needed vacation, to meet my parents, as I hadn’t visited them for a long time.  My only brother was working in the US which meant my parents were alone at Chennai in our house.  As usual Navarathri was fun-filled with daily visits to all known relatives and friends’ places, returning back with different varieties of delicious Sundal packets.  Those were the days where there weren’t high publicity to marriage portals like Tamilmatrimony, Shaadi.com etc.  The Mahalingapuram Temple charts and similar temples were the places where horoscope repository of prospective brides and grooms were found.  As with any other parents, my people were also interested in marrying me off to an appropriate guy and several horoscopes were considered.  Vythi’s horoscope matched well with mine, and my Mom called up his mother to proceed further.  It happened on November 5th, which happened to be the birthday of Vythi’s neice, Kavitha.  So, his mom said that the following Sunday, November 8th, 1998 would be the nearest convenient day for a meeting of the two families.  We had planned to fix the meeting at my maternal Uncle Ravi’s place at Kodambakkam, which was closer to Vythi’s family.  Vythi’s mom had told my Uncle Ravi and his spouse Sumathi that Vythi was looking for a modern girl.  She even suggested that let your girl be dressed in the modern Salwar rather than the traditional saree.  I prayed to my favourite Gods, then took the electric train from Sanatorium to Kodambakkam, and reached my Uncle’s place well before noon.  We were expecting a convoy of cars, as Vythi’s mom had told that there were three cars in their family and his son, daughter and son-in-law all wanted to travel in their own cars.  The scheduled time was between 1:30 and 2:00p.m.  Vythi came by 1:35 p.m. and said that he alone had come, as he first wanted to get convinced about the girl he wanted to marry.  We both had a looooooooong chat at my Uncle’s balcony, the place where we decided that we will get into wedlock.  Our voices were so loud that my mom was worried that I was having a fight with Vythi.  When we came out, and said we were OK with each other,  everybody looked pleased.   We got engaged on November 22, 1998 and the wedding was fixed for March 5th, 1999.  The period between Nov. and wedding was unforgettable and romantic.

Love brings in creativity, I remember writing poems to Vythi.  Wish I could relive those wonderful days!!!