Mocking at his “MOCK” exams!!

Vignesh, in Class VII is having his mock exams from today throughout this week. It seems that it is a preparatory test for the actual Final exams that begin on March 7th.  We are planning for our long pending vacation from this month end till March 5th, which means that he may not be able to actually “prepare” for his finals.  Although the Big Boss, Mr. V was apprehensive about this trip, the smaller V promised his dad about his dedication, devotion and such things and made his dad agree to the trip.  He also told us that he would prepare meticulously for his “mock”s so that it would be a cake walk for him during his actual finals!

Poor Mom and Dad, we are, we agreed to his deal and forgot about the same. There was a team trip on Saturday with my team and he happily agreed to be part of it along with his brother and few other kids too!! Had a great adventurous and tiring day till night and just dropped off to bed as soon as we came home…Yesterday too, he never opened his mouth about the mocks starting today.  Slowly, as the evening turned into night, he was trying to read his book along with watching some crap movie on TV, I questioned him on the starting date of the exams. He coolly replied, “Don’t you know that I open my book only when the exams dawns the next day?” I was totally bowled by his answer.

I am at a loss whether to change myself into a mom who keeps nagging her children about every other stuff that happens in the school or just leave him know what he ought to d0!!


என்ன கொடுமைடா இது!!

டைட்டில் பயங்கர  ‘கிக்’கா இருக்குல்ல!! இப்போ கொஞ்ச நேரம் முன்னாடி என் பசங்க ஸ்கூல் முடிந்து வீட்டிற்கு வந்ததும் நானும் வராத காரணத்தால் (உள்ளுக்குள்ள ஒரே குஷியாய் இருந்திருக்கும் போல!!) என் கைப்பேசியில் என்னை அழைத்தனர். சின்னவன் கார்த்திக் அவனது வழக்கமான பள்ளிப் புகார்களை வாசித்து முடித்த பின் நான் எப்போது வருவேன் என்று கேட்ட பிறகு தன் அருமை அண்ணனிடம் தொலைப்பேசியைக் கொடுத்தான். அண்ணன் தன் முறைக்கு தான் தன் வகுப்பில் கணிதத்தில் இரண்டாவது அதிக மதிப்பெண் என்றும் கூறினான்.  அதைக் கேட்டு கண்டிப்பாக நான் அவனைப் பாராட்டி இருக்க வேண்டும். அதிலும் நான் அவனோடு துளியும் உட்காரவில்லை அவன் பரிட்சைக்குத் தயார் செய்யும் போது.!! மேலும் என் தாய் தந்தையர் இருவருமே என்னையும் என் அண்ணனையும் ரொம்ப “டார்ச்சர்” செஞ்சதில்லை! என் தந்தை நாங்கள் கொண்டு வரும் விடைத்தாளை என்ன மதிப்பெண் பெற்றிருக்கிறோம் என்று கூட பார்க்காமல் கையொப்பமிடும் ரகம். அவருக்கு மகளாகப் பிறந்தும், நான் விக்னேஷிடம், “என்ன இருந்தாலும் ஒரு கணக்கு வாத்தியாருக்கு மகனாய்ப் பிறந்தும் நீ இப்படி முதல் மதிப்பெண் வாங்கத் தவறியிருக்கக் கூடாது” என்றேன். அவன் ஒரே போடாக, “அம்மா! நீ எழுதி முதல் மதிப்பெண் வாங்கவில்லை என்றால் அர்த்தம் இருக்கு! எனக்கு நான் வாங்கிய மார்க் போறும்” என்றதும் நான் ஆனேன் கப்சிப்.!!

When will these stereotyped schools and teachers change??

Last Saturday was the first Parent Teachers Meeting for both my kids, for this academic year.  Usually my DH does not find time to come with us for these meetings.  I’ll go along with the kids, meet the teachers, get the report cards, with added spices from teachers about my kids’ behaviour at class.

This time, it was both Karthik and myself, who were in our own thoughts, as to what his teachers might comment about him.  As you might have already known from my writings, Karthik is a very hyperactive kid and the added fact is that my kids have a mom who never nags them to study like the studious regular moms who are more in this beautiful earth.

First, we met Karthik’s class teacher.  She said, he was OK in academics, and pointed out that his intelligence is not shown in his performance in the tests.  I told her that he doesn’t have the patience to take up the two-periods test completely.  She was more worried about the way in which he behaves in the class.  She said, he was too good whenever she was around, but was the extreme opposite once the class teacher leaves the class, until the time, the next subject teacher entered. Apart from English Literature (they also have English Language as a paper) and Basic Hindi orals (written, he had done well), all his other marks were quite impressive.  So we had to meet these two teachers.

The English teacher made it my worst ever day at the school.   She said, Karthik was so hyperactive that it required the first 30 minutes of her class to make him sit, and hence she had only ten minutes of the rest of the time to teach the subjectt.  I, being a teacher, had thought that it is the teacher’s basic ability to hold the attention of  his/her class students.  Though, I couldn’t tell her about it.   She said that he doesn’t do this, he doesn’t listen for a long time, this and that.  Also, the last thing that she said, “As a parent, you need to be behind your child, know the test dates, make him write mock tests, check his notebook daily, make him complete his uncompleted work and the like.” I got really furious.  I gathered all my anger and replied her, “I expect all these to happen at school.  I have seen my elder kid during his Class III, who never had opened his text books or note books for studying specifically for his exams during Class III.  But, still he topped not only his class, but the entire third standard comprising of six sections with roughly 40 kids each.”

I feel that the kids should not be pressurized to memorize the subject just for the sake of writing the exams or scoring marks in those exams. The subjects should be taught in such a way that kindles the enthusiasm in the young minds to explore more on those topics.  Even languages, could be taught in the most interesting manner, so that the child develops a passion in knowing the language and its powerfulness.  I cherish a few of  my language teachers during my school and college time, who have made them memorable.

After getting more from his Tamil teacher too, we moved to get the report card of  Vignesh.  His marks too were good in Maths, Science and Social Studies.  But all three languages were a flop, English, Tamil and Basic Hindi.  He had scored roughly 6 or 7 out of a total of 10 points.  His handwriting was something which he had to improve.  That was insisted by all teachers.  He carries already 5 to 6 kgs of loads of books everyday.  Whenever I question him, he says, for each subject, he has one or two text books, 4 or 5 note books, and he had to carry all of them everyday, as they never knew, which notebook they might use  on any particular day.  The Maths teacher complained that, most of the time, he never had the appropriate notebook that he was supposed to have, and was writing in his rough note.  I couldn’t agree to that. And the saddest part was that, she didn’t even remember his name, as she was handling just that paper for his class.

That day, I hated their school the most.  I had always thought that the kids were enjoying their school and this school is not the regular stereotyped, book oriented, mark oriented school.  But I changed my views completely.

I really feel sad for my kids.  Hate to become a mom, who just cares about the marks and grades my kids would get.  I would rather homeschool my kids, instead of putting them in such schools.